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Most men make the same fundamental mistakes. So here is the list of the 5 most common mistakes that I always see men make, and a few quick fixes to avoid the problem.

1. Failing to move the interaction forward

While it was fine for men to have fun in a group and chat it up, it was not OK to let the interaction linger there all night. How could sit and talking leads to hooking up? Impossible!

How to fix it

Instead of doing the same thing the whole time, you should have to do something different – anything! Point is, if the interaction isn't moving forward, it will die. This happens so often to guys whether they realize it or not. Ever wonder why your conversations die out after a minute or so? It is because you are failing to move your interactions forward. Go with her to the bar, play a drinking game, give a tour of your place, whatever, just move the interaction forward!

2. Too much chatting

Most of the time guys just chatting with girls. Typical "guy logic," says that if they can just say enough or say the right thing at the right moment, the girl will sleep with him. Wrong. Fact is the more you talk to her the more chances you have to shoot yourself in the foot. It's time to learn when to shut up.

How to fix it

Actions speak louder than words. Rather than overly talking her up, or "trying to convince her to sleep with you," show her what its like to be with you. Give her the experience rather than the conversation. This means doing fun things, not talking about them. Even if you have no previous experience dating hot girls, this will still get you better results than a good looking guy who fails to make a move.

3. Failing to pull the trigger

By not going for the kiss you are blowing the deal. Plain and simple. It sends the wrong message to a girl – that you don't like her or that you are too shy. If you two are hanging out and are into each other it is simply rude to not kiss her. If she is not interested she will let you know.

How to fix it

Guys are so worried about the right time, or knowing whether or not she is "ready to be kissed." Let me ask you this – are you ready to be kissed? If you are feeling like it, then most likely she is as well. This is because if you aren't getting along you will be so concerned with fixing the situation, that kissing her will not be on your mind. So when kissing her does come to mind, it is most likely because it is the appropriate time to kiss and set the sexual context for this relationship. Trust your instinct and just do it.

4. Not allowing for alone time

A girl's need to get to know who you are one-on-one to see what it will be like to be with you. Also, girls might feel self-conscious in front of their friends and as a result, she will not allow herself to be free with you, or to keep an open mind.

How to fix it

You will have plenty of opportunities to take a girl by the hand and take her to another part of the bar or somewhere outside, get to know each other, and set up the kiss. You always have an excuse to be alone, whether it is on a walk, on the dance floor, or at a café. Find time to be alone with her, and get to experience each other on a more real and personal level.

Start setting up these one-on-one situations ASAP. That means within the first 5 minutes of meeting a girl and you will see the ridiculous results of your efforts, believe me.

5. Failing to set a sexual context

If you do not set a sexual context to your interactions, they will not be sexual. It is that simple. If you like a girl and want to hook up with her, it is necessary to set a context for your relationship that leads to you two hooking up at the end of the night.

How to fix it

The first step is to get it into your head that you two are going to hook up. A quick fix is to visualize it actually going down. That way there is a greater chance that it plays out that way in the end. But don't just leave it up to luck. Everything you do from sharing drinks together, to the things you choose to talk to her about, should be the type of things that you would say to a girl that you are into. If you simply talk to her and treat her how you would treat your friends, that's all you will ever be – just friends.

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