As I mentioned in previous articles, dating can suck when you're ugly and/or fat.
Societal standards of beauty are impossible to achieve without hard work from your side. But being fat doesn't mean that you are doomed to a life of being forever alone. And of course, it doesn't mean that you should wait until you lose your excess fat, in order to start dating girls.
In fact, you may find that you have far more options for finding love, sex, and happiness than you'd ever believe possible. So, if you are a big guy, how can you get a good looking girl, without paying?
First of all, you have to be funny. If you can make her laugh, you can win her. No, being clown doesn't help. You have to be funny. This shows to her that you have confidence.
Start by watching comedians like Gabriel Iglesias to get your lessons from these guys. You can't be funny if you don't have confidence and high self-esteem, you should work on these areas too.
A woman will look at how other men and other people react to you if they respect you or not, etc. It's difficult to be funny and be respected at the same time, but with work, you can achieve that.
Remember, women love confidence. Confidence is power. Wherever you feel you have limits, you should fix it.
Stop judging women based on their appearance. Let's say a woman you are attracted to, is a 6. A woman who is 6 is average, but she's close to 9 and 10. So, if you look at her and say "now she's a 6 and I can't attract her", then you put limitations on your self. Never do that. Instead, say something like "she's fine" or "she's good looking" but never say "she's a 9 or a 10". Stop feeding your self-sabotage.
If you stop judging women based only on their appearance, then if you see a woman on the streets, you can't have this playful vibe a player has, and you will approach her with fear. And believe me, women can easily feel this fear.
So, to recap, if you say "Oh, a nice looking woman, I will talk to her", instead of saying "Oh my God, she's so hot, she's a 9", it gives you the right amount of confidence to say the right thing to this girl.
If the appearance of a woman can't affect you, then you can have the right arrogance and the right confidence to attract this girl. She will feel your energy, she will feel that you can walk away from her anytime, and even if she say "[email protected] you", she will feel that you can say "No, [email protected] you". Otherwise, you will be her slave, like so many dudes are.