Everything popular is wrong ~ Oscar Wilde
Know the rules well, so you can break them effectively ~ Dalai Lama XIV
Welcome to the “Player’s Blog“, a blog that is exactly the opposite from the most books or relative products “out there”, that is, from getting lost from the useless “theories” by some guy who wants to get some money quickly and easily. The “Player’s Blog” is a blog that explores the psychology and relationships of men with the opposite sex.
My nickname (Shark) came out of a friend who commented on how I approached women and decided to keep it as my nickname.
I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious ~ Albert Einstein
Back in 2007 when I first started, there was no participation that exists today and I needed something to communicate with people involved in the same sport. I liked the idea to start writing about my results and what I saw infield trying out various techniques, so here we are.
I want to congratulate you on choosing to read this blog and I would suggest that you continue to read it because I imagine you want the best in your life. This means you want to take your life in your hands and that shows you have courage.
But let’s look at what’s going on.
The best -perhaps- feeling is when you feel comfortable with women and of course when a woman is in love with you. You feel you are alive, you feel just perfect. It also gives you the confidence to do what you want, to be comfortable with everything.
While this feeling is perfect, not having it is the worst. A feeling I have felt for many years. I grew up as a child, unable to flirt comfortably with a woman if I did not know her first, but until I did, in most cases she had already saw me as a friend. Probably blaming my school which was for men only (due to the specialties) and of course the few tutorials so my encounters with women were exclusively from my social circle.
The matter over time was not that I lacked the courage. I remember at a party or on a summer vacation, I had no problem going to a woman and getting to know her. It was also not that I could not attract a woman, the point was that I could not attract a woman that interested me.
Back in the past, I was not interested in becoming a “player”, but the other way around, to find one I like and stay with her. Of course I did not.
So I decided to change at some point, leave nothing to chance, nor wait for something to happen. I also began to read the tips of “specialists” in magazines and sites and then in related books. However, after several years of pain, without results, I finally realized the following, what I have read, what they have told me, they were just fake tips, mainly for money (from magazines).
After I realized it, I decided to change my whole style, from my thoughts/ideas/opinions, to my appearance, the way I dress, and generally a general change. So I found, after enough searching, the Seduction community and believe me, I have tried any advice and any technique out there. Every idea, every strategy, every routine I was reading, I was going out (my own at first, then with some people related to the game) and I tried them.
I never rejected an idea if I did not try it a few times in Europe (as you can see, all those ideas are based on American culture). When I started, I liked psychology, I wrote, and of course I was very curious, but I did not know how much material there was “out there” to explore. The plague of the whole story was that the guys who started learning how to get better with women as quickly as possible with the idea that if you had sex with a woman, it would continue to come with you, no matter your style/game.
Although I have to admit that there are some truths “out there”, they are lost in the queer by the so-called “Pickup Artists” (PUA) who have NOT tried what they teach. Remember, dear reader, that everyone can teach what he reads, but that does not mean that he has practiced the subject he teaches. The phenomenon of PUAs has begun to increase in recent years, and the joke of the case is that anyone who reads some books call himself “PUA”, of course not really knowing the woman’s mind. Call it male selfishness, call it revenge for the years women did not want him, the point is that if you follow any advice you read, then you may have problems.
Also, the approach of the guys who teaching the game is a formula of destroying any successful long-term relationship and I learned this in a bad way and of course many times.
So I came to the conclusion:
Nobody has the real answer for the women issue. NONE. The best one can do and I did is to stop asking every “guru” and get out on the field and try on his own. Only then he will understand what works and of course what works on him, because no one is the same as the other.
And we arrive on today.
Sometimes alone, sometimes with some friends, I continue to engage and discover continually new and interesting and deeper things, many of which nobody has analyzed or told me about.
However, it is not just the material that makes this blog ideal for those who are looking for self improvement but the fact that I personally test my theories in the so-called “field”, out in a real world and in real encounters with women, before I write something on the blog. The “game” is therefore fun and, of course, educational.
What you will understand is that you do not know what you do not know about women’s relationships and psychology. Here is a place of psychology knowledge that, in the course of time, adds something new, which shows you that you really have very little idea why you behave as you behave when you are between people or in front of a very beautiful woman.
I did not start this blog in order to become a teacher and I do not even ask you to see me like that. I’m neither a Pickup Artist nor a Master in Flirting, however I can have most woman I like. This can not be done by anyone and anyone who tells you so, is lying to you. However, I can win women and for some of them, at the beginning was unnoticed.
The difference is how I see myself now and how I feel, as well as how I approach the situations. The truth is that I have been more successful with women since I discovered my new self, my authentic and self-confident self, and so things started to change for the better.
I am not the only person who writes specific opinions, not the first to deal with relationships, sex and women, and I am neither play smarter than anybody. What I want, however, is that my articles are really tested and not copied from another similar article that I will craft for myself. I want my articles to be easy to understand, to be entertaining and not boring with endless theories, but to be informative and even to help those who know nothing of psychology. What I mention, I usually add and a link to search about it for yourself, either from Wikipedia or from another site. What you will NOT find in this blog is false tips of the style “5 ways to get her in bed” and other such fake, false articles and ideas.
What I was interested in was the discovering of myself, finding my limits and bypass them. I started by reading several books, by choosing some authors only, whom I also recognized their writings and I considered them as legit authors. So their experience in co-operation with my own experience of what works and what not, as well as my own search for human psychology, usually by observing people in different encounters to understand human behavior, taught me finally a lot.
I’m not your teacher, but -I can be- your guide. It is up to you to make the change you want in your life, something that no one else can do but you.
At this point, I would like to thank life that gave me an unfair “road” with difficulties. I had to “fight” and relieve myself from a huge “ego,” a stubborn way of thinking and arrogance, pushing me to improve myself for the better.
Do not be afraid if you fail to do something, or if you notice that you are “returning” to your old ideas/habits. Change is a process that takes time to “integrate” into you.
BEFORE YOU START THE HATING COMMENTS OR EMAILS:
I am neither a psychologist nor a master in the relationships. I am a guy who at some point of his life decided to leave the “geeky” life and to look for issues related to his improvement with women. On the way, I was looking more for psychology, improving sexuality, and dealing with those issues, rather than just searching “how to talk with women” topic that most people sell.
Once I’ve managed to improve myself and overcome any fears, old ideas and habits, I think you can help yourself out of this blog.
However, I am not a omniscient and, of course, always correct. I also make mistakes, which everyone can tell me in the comments in a calm way, before starting the “ha”, I’m smarter than you comment style. If a topic does not match you, do not stop here. Do your own search and find your own answer to the topic that interests you.
Remember that writing here is the result of endless hours of reading and approaches/tests on random women in the field, either in clubs/bars or anywhere else.
The composition of the articles is my own interpretation of the events I have so far encountered. I try not to type “how to understand her in 5 simple steps” or “what to say to fuck her“, but when it comes to some research, I’m posting researches and always I add the link for further research on your own.
If you think something is missing or something has not been covered on my behalf, contact me. The blog will change form or composition, depending on how I judge it to be.
Also remember this, as it refers to this blog, are purely my own opinions, thoughts and experiences. At no point I can guarantee that anything will “work” for you too, if you do not work for yourself too.
If you want to copy an article, you can do it in a few words (not the whole article) and add the link for the blog. Copying the entire text and putting it on your own, which is something most people do, does not make you better for others than for your selfishness.
This blog started as a personal blog about seduction and pickup related stuff, based on my own experiences. But I decided to add more stuff interested to men, while continue keeping the main idea about seduction, relationships and pickup.
A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects. ~ Robert A. Heinlein
This blog is a mirror from my original blog (which is written in Greek) and I write here mainly to improve my English. English is not my native language, so sorry for my Engrish 🙂
Many articles are translated directly in English using Google translate in many parts of an article. If you found some articles difficult to understand, you can help me by pointing out any grammatical error you found.