With time I realized that the real player is one who has no need of any game. If you want to become a real player, stop downloading the «bible» of routines and opening lines and start build yourself. I have read in many forums guys asking «how to talk», «in coffee shop I go, there is one girl i like, so what to say» etc.
The problem with all these «seduction» forums is this. Let’s say that a new guy register to this forum and starting to read the threads. The first thing he will do, is to try and learn everything a dude with thousands of posts has to say. But a newbie can’t understand the the most of these guys are just saying everything the read from the books and never tried them.
Of course this «newbie» will try then to learn who is the best PU instructor out there. And, to his bad luck, the majority of them will be fanboys to some group, so he will receive another wrong answer. Is this guy had the opportunity to go out with someone of these guys, he will understand that they are not worth anything and of course all these they say are straight from the books.
So, stop trying to learn the «best» method, this method doesn’t exist. If the PU instructors knew this method, they will not paid models for their «infield» videos.
Focus on yourself. Do not think what to say but say it. You like one girl, go and talk to her. You don’t want to go direct, go indirect, but just go.
Remember to be playful and not very serious. Be funny but not a clown. No need to think about routines, IOIs, Negs etc. Everyone has something to say for himself.
[Originaly Published on: Jan 17, 2009]